How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids
by Jancee Dunn (Author)
A hilariously candid account of one woman’s quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice.
How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the ‘expert’ at changing a diaper?
Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage – and the way their marriage will affect their child.
Enter Jancee, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today.
On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country’s most renowned couples’ and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an “explosive situation.” Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate–and rebuild–your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children.
Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn’t know you had.
Jancee Dunn grew up in Chatham, New Jersey. She was a writer at Rolling Stone from 1989-2003. She has written for many publications, among them the New York Times, Vogue, Parents, GQ, and O: The Oprah Magazine. She has been an entertainment correspondent for Good Morning America and, for five years, a veejay for MTV2. Her memoir “But Enough About Me,” about her life as chronically nervous celebrity interviewer, came out in 2006, and the novel “Don’t You Forget About Me” followed in 2008. Her collection of essays entitled “Why Is My Mother Getting A Tattoo? And Other Questions I Wish I Never Had To Ask” was a finalist for the Thurber Prize For American Humor. Most recently she collaborated with Cyndi Lauper for “Cyndi Lauper: A Memoir,” released September 2012. She and her husband live in Brooklyn.